A little space to think

Four questions for a decision that feels stuck

You can use these questions on paper. They are a way to organise a decision, not a test with a correct score. Leave an answer as “Not sure” if you need more information.

Can I change this decision later?

Consider what would actually be involved in changing course: time, money, other people or commitments. A reversible choice may allow a small trial. A hard-to-reverse choice may deserve more care before acting.

When do I actually need to decide?

Separate a real deadline from a feeling of urgency. If there is a deadline, write it down. If there is none, you can choose a time to revisit the decision rather than keep it constantly open.

What’s the main risk?

Name the downside you are most concerned about. What do you know about it, and what would you need to find out? Do not assume that a serious concern is just overthinking.

How much of this is mine to control?

Separate your actions from other people’s responses or events you cannot determine. Your next step might be a conversation, a boundary, a request for help or a practical preparation.

Put the answers to use

Write a couple of realistic options. Ask which fits what matters to you. If you cannot choose yet, identify one missing piece of information or someone who could help. Then name one small action and a time or cue for doing it.

Choosing between two options · The method and its evidence